Pep Talk

you always want what you can't have. it's not that unique really, but it has to stop.

you choose the wrong people, and then bend and twist yourself in an attempt to be what you think they want, or what will make you more desirable to them.

enough now. it really is time to stop.

realize that you are enough. you are a whole person. you are a good person. you are definitely a lovable person. you wouldn't have so many caring family and friends if you weren't. you are smart and you can be funny when you want to be. you are a good friend. you deserve good things, you just have to put yourself in a place so that they can happen- and then LET THEM.

stop worrying that you will end up alone. learn to tolerate the loneliness, even if it is the worst feeling you can imagine. there can always be worse. hopefully you will never know it. you will not end up alone, not if you don't want to. believe that. know that it will be ok.

you don't have to change yourself or put your own wants and needs to the side. you do not have to settle. this is not the same as compromise, by doing these things you are being careless with yourself. stop being reckless with your emotions. take care of yourself. you are worth taking care of. someone will want to help take care of you someday, and you will want to take care of them. it won't be a one way street. and if that takes a while- become comfortable taking care of yourself, emotionally. you deserve that.

and now to use all of the cliches i can think of at the moment:
put on your big girl panties and deal with it.
this feeling will not last forever.
you will look back one day and realize you weren't alone, and this wasn't a major event in the grand scheme of your life.
you will find someone, and you'll be so happy you won't even remember what it was like to feel sad or lonely.
if it doesn't kill you it makes you stronger.
learn from your mistakes.
don't- DON'T- beat yourself up. it's really not worth it.


for the love of god- stop talking to the people who make you feel bad about yourself. it won't make you feel better. i know it hurts, but he didn't want to be with you. he chose someone else. talking to him won't help. honestly, it won't. stop trying to convince yourself otherwise. it never works. you can't be friends. i know he was nice, but you can't be friends-because you will always think there's an inkling that he'll realize the mistake he made. it wasn't a mistake. you were not meant to be with him. you will be fine. and so will he. and soon it won't matter.


allow yourself to feel sad if you feel sad, and angry when you feel angry. but don't let it take over your life- or even your day. keep yourself open to new experiences. learn new stuff. meet new people. revisit the ones who help make you happy.
take care of yourself, physically and emotionally. you are worth it. really, you are.